Sunday, July 30, 2017

Setting Intentions: Journaling

In this second installment of our Setting Intentions series, we’re going to talk about some specific ways to define what you want to manifest. Then in the third, we’ll look at more ways to eliminate the negativity that keeps you from manifesting your desires.
One of the best way to figure out goals and intentions is to write them down. You almost certainly have a very good idea of what you would like to manifest in your life, and one of the best ways to follow up on your goals and intentions is to write daily about the progress you’re making. Use your journal to plan your goal, reflect on the challenges, and record your development and accomplishments. I’ve included a couple of sample pages below that I use, but each journal is a personal creation. 

When we sit down with a journal, we can reflect on what it is we really want to manifest in our lives.  Whether you structure your journal in some way like the sample pages or work freeform, journal work is one of the best ways to keep track of goals, to help us remain focused.

The energy we send out creates our reality. What we think and believe determines how we focus our attention and awareness. How we focus, then determines what we see and don’t see in any given situation. When we focus our energy on our intentions, we create the reality that reflects the energy we’re sending out.

To make sure we’re sending out the energy that will create what we want to manifest, we need to work through those questions we have about what we really want to create in our lives and how to manifest the energy we want in our lives. To work through those questions, we have to know and stay in touch with ourselves.

When you sit down and reflect on what it is you’re trying to create, you may realize your goals have changed. Many times, a long held desire loses its desirability in the light of your personal growth. You may find new desires coming to importance that you would not have considered before.  Your individuality will lead you to your goals.

Journaling, in combination with meditation, can help you find your deepest desires. Once you discover what you want, you can look at the steps you need to take to achieve your goals.  This will help you know what intentions you need to set to help you manifest what you want in your life.

These questions may help you get started:

  • What matters most to you?
  • What would you like to create, or nurture in your life?
  • What in your life would you like to release?
  • What fears would you like to release?


Sunday, July 16, 2017

Setting Intentions; First Steps

This week we’re starting the Setting Intentions series Aeslin told you about earlier.  I hope you enjoy it.  Several times lately, I’ve had people mention they’re having trouble with spells or manifestation, or that nothing seems to be happening, and they’re not sure what they’re doing wrong.

We all know that to cast any spell or manifest any change effectively, we must first set our intention, but what exactly does that mean?  While defines intention as, “an act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result,” or “the end or object intended; purpose,” for our purposes, we can use the working definition,” Your intentions are what you want to manifest, or what you want to happen.”  Sounds simple enough -- right?

Well, it is simple enough, on the face of it.  However, first, of course, we have to define what we want.  This is where the first problem comes in.  For many, the problem is just in taking the time to think carefully to figure out what they want.

Others, however, think they know what they want and set their intentions, but as soon as they set the intentions, they start putting all kinds of limitations on how they want the universe to deliver their desires.  For example, if your intention is to be wealthy, but then you say “I don’t want to be consumed by money,” or “I want to lose weight,” but “I don’t want to exercise.”  Often we do this either because we don’t believe we deserve to get what we want, or we don’t believe that it’s possible to get what we want, so we state our intentions in such a way that we set ourselves up for failure by not trusting the universe to work it out.

The question then is how to fix the problem.  The easy answer is that intentions need to be sincere.  However, I think we are sincere when we set intentions.  If you’re like me, when I first began setting intentions, you’ll have to work through some of these things, and you’ll sometimes need to remind yourself that you are “worthy,” although it becomes much easier with practice.

Meditation can make the difference in your ability to set intentions and see them through. Carve out some time to meditate to help focus your thoughts on the positive and on being open to the gifts of the universe.

So, how do we get rid of those limiting thought and practices?  
Pay attention to how many times during the day you limit yourself.  How many times a day do you feel like you’re not good enough or that you don’t believe you can do something?  To set intentions that work, you must turn those thoughts around. I’ve listed some here.

  1. Count your blessings.  Be grateful for all you have. When things are bad, it’s very hard to count your blessings, but if you make yourself look for one thing you are grateful for, you’re sure to find many more, no matter how small they may be.  Work on finding more.
  2. Be open to all possibilities and willing to accept them.  Open your heart to what the universe brings you.  Are you truly willing and open to transform your life when your desires manifest
  3. Take action toward your goal.  Once you set your intention, act on it as though what you want is happening and act on it.  Show your commitment to your intention through your actions. 
Remember, meaningful intentions do not have as their intention to try to control others. Nor do they wish for some miraculous change. You need to be willing to start where you are and step up to the opportunity to create what you want!  A meaningful intention is sincere and promotes well-being.

What do you want to manifest?

Thursday, June 29, 2017


We've been remodeling, and it's finally done!!!  Please come in and look around!

I published this earlier, but then, as things tend to do, there ended up being a couple of unexpected delays, so I'm running this again for those who missed it.  We are still adding merchandise, and we will be updating all the sections on the page as they grow.

We updated pretty much everything to ensure your visit brings you what you seek.  The new design should enable you to move quickly to exactly what you’re looking for if you’re in a hurry, while still allowing you to browse the different areas of our site at your leisure.  We're also working on starting a spell/recipe exchange, so please post your favorites here or on

We added some new sections, Spells & Recipes, and Holiday Projects will be coming soon, and we will add more as we grow.

We still have all the products you come here to find; plus, our new featured supplier, 2 Crones Crafts, offers beautiful jewelry, and pendulums, as well as handcrafted lotions, bags, and pouches, scented heat therapy rice bags, and even bandanas, collars and leashes, and jewelry for pets. 


 Our goal is to supply products for all paths to the divine, as well as gift items to keep or share.  At Pagan Realms, you'll find supplies for Wicca, Witchcraft, Shamanism,  Druidism, Mysticism, Buddhism, and personal spirituality.  You'll also find ritual tools and clothing as well as Steampunk jewelry and garb.  

Look around; take your time, and let us know what you think!

Sunday, June 25, 2017


Today we have a guest blog from Aeslin to kick off our new series on Setting Intentions.

The road to hell is paved with good intentions. We've all heard it, and have agreed. My take on this cliché is that everyone has good intentions, and some are going to take the wrong road for various reasons. The intent/failure relationship has been summed up as a concept in that well-known saying, and by scientists like Frank Wieber, J. Lukas Thürmer, and Peter M. Gollwitzer who acknowledge the existence of a gap between strong intentions and actual behavior such that even strong goal intentions do not ensure successful goal attainment."

In this study, Wieber, examine what happens in the brain when intent is expressed, and the correlating likelihood of following through to fruition. This study reinforces the "road to hell" phenomenon. Although patterns of real outcomes can highlight what is wrong with our failed attempts, it does not teach us to move forward to success. Meriam-Webster supplies us with some definitions of intention that omit the commonly expected outcome of failure. 
1.       A determination to act in a certain way:  resolve
2.       importsignificance
3.       a: What one intends to do or bring about b: the object for which a prayer, mass, or pious act is offered
4.       concept; especially:  a concept considered as the product of attention directed to an object of knowledge
What if we took that definition and looked at it from a different perspective?
In Psychology Today, Jennice Vilhauer, Ph.D. states, "As a psychologist who studies how people create their futures, one of the things I’ve learned is that having an expectation that differs from what you want isn’t just the reason you don’t buy lottery tickets. It is the reason there are lots of things you want, but you can’t quite seem to attain them—losing that last five to 10 pounds, going for that dream job or relationship. It is the number one reason you stay stuck in life, because: 

Expectation + Action = Creation of your life experiences."

According to Dr. Vilhauer, handling expectation could be the secret sauce or fatal cool aid that most directly affects your outcome. Carefully examining our beliefs in circumstances, our possible outcomes, and ourselves could be the secret sauce that combines intention and actions to produce success as an outcome. Dr. Vilhauer has observed that allowing unsuccessful patterns to become the logic we use to expect outcomes can contribute to the very opposite of our hopes - it can produce our fears. 

Changing our expectations can take as much courage as facing our strongest adversary, or happen accidentally when you have a friendly encounter that exceeds your expectations. In either case, there is a change in beliefs that can give your intentions the fuel for a chance at life. Whether by will, power, or willpower, these changes are the hope that is required while practicing the determination mentioned in Webster's above definition. 

This brings to mind another common comment I've heard that follows failed intentions. "If at first you don't succeed, try, and try again."  Each failure in your journey of intent can be renamed and revalued as a lesson to perfect your goal. If heeded, your lessons of failure can make your creation stronger, and give you the awareness that success requires. When we have truly focused our attention on our goal, and our actions support our commitment, setbacks are always temporary. The journey does not end until your expectations are met! 
What expectations have determined your success or failure in your experiences? In the following weeks, Pagan Realms will publish a series on the subject of the power of intent. Join the conversation or follow along at   This is going to be a very interesting discussion! 

Wieber, F., Thürmer, J. L., and Gollwitzer, P. M. (2012). Collective action control by goals and plans: applying a self-regulation perspective to group performance. Am. J. Psychol.125, 275–290. 

doi: 10.5406/amerjpsyc.125.3.0275

Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Kid Stuff

When I was a kid, it was the 60s, the age of free love and drugs, and the worst things that were apt to happen were pregnancy or a bad trip.  We had maybe a third of the technology we have today, and a tenth of the luxuries.  People are fond of memories of having to actually get up to change the television channel, and having a phone with a cord on it that you couldn’t take with you, but what they’re really fond of, I think, is the sense of safety we had because we also had about a tenth of the dangers kids face today. 
Sure, bad things happened, even then.  I was nine when John Kennedy was killed, and it stunned the nation, but it wasn’t a personal danger.  It was danger on a national level.  We’d dealt with that before, and we’d won.  I guess when you think about how far technology has come, it’s no wonder really that the dangers involved have become greater as the world has gotten smaller.
When I was a kid, there were no internet stalkers because there was no internet; LSD was the only “designer drug,” and unprotected sex didn’t kill you. Kids didn’t take guns and bombs to school to kill each other, and no one had flown planes into the side of the World Trade Center.  I know, I know, it’s cliché to say it was a simpler time, but in many ways it’s the truth.  However, I can’t help but believe the separation caused by the lack of technology kept us innocent of many of the evils in the world. 
Evil had to work harder to get to us.  It could still get to us.  John Kennedy’s death, followed by the Manson murders and the assassinations of Bobby Kennedy and Martin Luther King were proof of that, but it was a little more distant than it seems to be now.  Technology has brought wonderful advances and horrible knowledge.  All of those murders and the Vietnam War came into our homes through the miracle that was TV. 
How much more information is available today?  The information we have access to now has multiplied exponentially which makes us infinitely more knowledgeable, and infinitely more paranoid, and for good reason.  With that knowledge has come a terrifying awareness of how much evil there is in the world.  I’m not going to get into a discussion of nature versus nurture.  However it came to be, it presents itself as evil, so we’ll just leave it at that.
I have a grandson soon to be born, and knowing how much progress we’ve made in my lifetime, I cannot help but wonder how much more will happen during his life, and how we will survive further development of intellect without further development of spirituality/morality/decency.  I’m not Christian, so I’m not preaching go to church, live the way I say, blah, blah, blah, but somewhere in there, before technology becomes so prevalent that we no longer have any contact with each other, we have to develop the sense of right and wrong that is missing in so much of our world today.  Without it, there is no sense of connection to the world or to other people, and we will become truly dangerous to ourselves and our world.  We’re already headed that way.
We are the only ones who can make this difference, and unless we start now, for those who haven’t already, to reach out to those who need, and those who suffer, and those who hurt, it’s going to be a bleak future.  Think back to the future you envisioned as a child, and let’s all take one small step on the path to love of our fellow humans and rebuilding the world that reflects the dreams we had when we were young.

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Independence and the Witches Creed – “And it harm none”

The witches reed is “And it harm none, do as thou will,” so your independent personal path is just as valid as another so long as you bring harm to none.  Sometimes it’s hard to determine what will bring harm to none, and that is one of the most difficult things for positive practitioners to work out.  How do you know if it will harm none?  This is where meditation comes in.  Ask yourself what your motivation is for doing what you plan.  Who does it benefit, and who can it possibly harm.  

It’s extremely hard to see all the possible ramifications of our actions when we plot a course, so while I’m meditating about what is “my will,” I also ask the Lord and Lady to let me consider how what I do will affect others.  You’ve probably heard the old saw, “For every action, there is an opposite and equal reaction.”  This is especially true of craft, but in craft, what you send out comes back to you threefold, so if you focus on your positive thoughts and feelings, kindness, compassion, gentleness, love, honor, of self and others, your course of action will become clear. If you weave a spell that is not in the best interest of all involved, it will not only unravel, it will come back to you with triple the negativity you sent out.  

At Pagan Realms, we want to know what you think, and what you’d like to see in the blog, so we’ve placed a suggestion submission at the bottom of the page for your comments and ideas.  We’re also having a contest for guest bloggers.  Each month we will choose one of the suggestions.  If your suggestion is chosen, not only will you get the opportunity to blog about it yourself, if you wish, you will also win the prize selected for that month. The selected prize will change every month.

Summer Solstice: Trust your intuition

Spirituality is a very personal thing to me, and now that Summer Solstice is upon us, as is the super moon, the time is right for rededicating to craft and positive visions and goals regardless of which tradition you follow.  No matter your primary path, almost every site, teaching, or book will propose a different card to represent the solstice, from the High Priestess, or the Empress to the Sun and the Chariot and each will give you a little bit different way to celebrate.  This week, we’ll look at some of the primary cards suggested by different places, and just explore some of the meanings.

The beauty of the Pagan path is that it empowers each of us to trust ourselves.  I find that I take what works for me from many different paths, and incorporate them into a belief system that reflects who I am. Unless you have already found what works for you, it may take some research to find what colors, crystals, jewelry, altar supplies, and cards resonate with your energy.  My goal is simply to help you find your path, whatever that may be.  

The best way I can think to do that is to tell you what has worked for me.  You are welcome to use what I tell you, or find a way that works better for you, but if I get you started on finding your own path, I will have accomplished my goal.  For example, I choose my Solstice card by spending a bit of time focusing on each card before the solstice to see which one resonates, and then I incorporate it into my solstice celebration.  A few minutes a day will let you know which card you want to focus on for your particular goals.

The super moon will make solstice this year an especially powerful time for creating positive energy.  If you haven’t already planned your ritual or celebration, now is the time to make sure the way you spend the Sabbat reflects the path you want to take, and the goals you want to accomplish in the second part of the year.  What would you like to manifest in your life?