I think we're going to save numerology for its own page and for Facebook postings. In the spirit of starting the Yule season off on the right foot by reflecting on the past year and what we’re thankful for not only in this past year, but always. As for me, first and foremost, I am thankful for my family and friends. I confess that I’m as bad as everyone else about not thinking about how much I truly do appreciate them except on occasions like this, but that’s one of the things that we should all think about more often, not just how thankful we are for our family and friends, although that is huge, but how thankful we are for all the wonderful things in our lives.
We all have rough times and times that try our patience, but most of us also have many things and people to be thankful for. I am blessed to have a wonderful family, and friends that have been my extended family for over 30 years, some for most of my life. I also have new friends that I wouldn’t trade and who have stood by me when many wouldn’t. I’m not sure you can really ‘be’ thankful enough for that, simply because without it, I don’t know how we’d function. In the words of John Lennon, “I get by with a little help from my friends,” and I think that’s true of all of us.
Family is wonderful, and having a good relationship with your family is something we can’t discount, but not everyone has that luxury. There are many reasons that we may or may not be close to family, not all of them necessarily bad; they just are, and our relationship with family may change over the years. Personally, I am closer to my family now than I was for many years, and I love my family dearly. However, during those years I wasn’t close to my family, I became part of an extended family that I wouldn’t trade for the world.
I wouldn’t begin to know how to thank these people for what they have meant to me through the years, and I can’t imagine spending the past 30 years without them. We have partied together, cried together, been present for child birth and graduations, anniversaries and holidays. We have bonded over parents who are aging and children who are growing up much too fast, and sometimes a little too slow. For me, most of these people are creative types, musicians, writers, artists, photographers, or Rennies, and many of them have other skills they use in the proverbial “day job.” Let me just say my college graduation parties were pretty epic, but that’s beside the point. What isn’t beside the point is that most of us have people like this in our lives, and we should find ways to let them know how much we appreciate them.
My way to show my appreciation for my friends and family is to have a Yule celebration at my house each year. I fix dinner and share the feast with all those who have been there and been my family and extended family for lo these many years. This might be rather elaborate for some, but I do want to advocate finding some way to say thanks to those who have kept you sane over the years, and we all know we have them. We also know we probably wouldn’t have made it this far without them, if for no other reason than that they’ve given us an outlet for those quirks that we couldn’t share with anyone else.
"A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself."